Today I was talking to a friend of mine about relationships and friendships, and she said “you know, at the end of the day, except for immediate family, all of us are alone. You have to think about yourself, and put yourself first”. That made me so sad, and I thought, poor girl, she’s probably never had that one person you can count on, like I do. Then she connected the dots in the most horrible way by saying, ”of course work is important, I would choose work over a relationship too, but remember he is thinking about himself and putting himself first, before you, and that’s sad, but I respect that”.
I never thought of it that way, of putting yourself before another person, putting your success before another person’s, putting your life before another person’s. That isn’t a relationship, that’s just being outright selfish. She saw through this relationship haze and cut right through it, so matter of fact. It scared the hell out of me.